Should You Engage in Premarital Sex?

A Daily Little Lesson

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I am a Christian. That means I’m a person who believes that Jesus is the Son of God, and that makes Him a unique person of all history.

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I believe He is still alive. I believe He’s seated at the right hand of God the Father. And one day all of us—you and me included—are going to have to stand before Him and give an account of our lives. Therefore I’m doing my best to try to obey what He said.

Obeying the One Who Loves You

But here’s the beautiful thing about being a Christian and endeavoring to follow Jesus. You know that He loves you and all of His commandments aren’t because He’s trying to steal your fun or ruin your life. His commandments are motivated from His love for you.

So when Jesus tells you to do something or not to do something, it’s not because He’s rubbing his hands up there in Heaven saying, “Oh, I just love making people miserable!” It’s because He loves us and He wants what is best for us.

And He is the one who thought of the idea of male and female. He’s the one who gave you your sexual desires. And He is the one who gave you a desire to be married to someone and enjoy the blessing of having one person who is your lifelong partner with whom you can raise a family and enjoy all the blessings that come with that.

So that relates to the topic that I want to discuss today. Should you engage in premarital sex? There’s a number of reasons why God says absolutely not. And if you do, this actually shows that you don’t believe in Jesus.

I didn’t say that believers in Jesus can’t be tempted. Or even fall. But they will feel so guilty and miserable if they do, because Christians have the Holy Spirit living inside them. And they’ll be strongly motivated within themselves to ask God’s forgiveness and repent and take steps to avoid stumbling into that sin once again.

Why God Forbids Premarital Sex

All right. So so why did God say don’t engage in premarital sex? Well, there’s a number of reasons that I can think of.

One would be, of course, that you’re taking a huge risk in harming yourself on many different levels physically, spiritually and emotionally as well.

Sex is designed by God to be a very sacred thing shared between two people who are committed to each other until death do they part. It’s not for casual relationships.

Your body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. You are created in the image of God. You’re not supposed to be hooking up sexually with anybody, except for someone you are committed to and who is committed to you.

Premarital Sex Could Lead to an Unexpected Pregnancy

And there’s reasons for that, of course, too, because there’s a chance that through sex—because this is part of what God designed it for—you’re going to create children.

And God loves children, and wants them raised in homes with moms and dads. It’s such a sin against children to engage in casual sex and produce children who aren’t born to a mom and a dad who are committed to death do they part to be a family.

So you’re taking a risk of hurting your child. You may say, “Well, we use birth control so we don’t worry about that.” Well, that’s a way around it, but not a guaranteed way around it, as so many people have unfortunately discovered.

Premarital Sex Could Result in a Sexually Transmitted Disease

You’re putting yourself at risk also of getting a sexually transmitted disease. And that can really wreak a lot of havoc in your life.

I’m not going to talk about this. I’m not a doctor. But Google “sexually transmitted diseases” and see what you can learn!

And this, I guess you could say, is a warning from God. A discouragement from God, “Don’t do this! My blessing—My approval—is not on this.”

Those are just some of the reasons. When you have sex with someone you’re not married to, you’re having sex with someone’s future husband or future wife. And if they were married, of course that would be a huge sin against that person and their spouse, because you’re not treating them like you want to be treated.

How Premarital Sex Hurts Your Future Spouse

And that’s just the most fundamental moral principle there is. Treat other people like you want to be treated. Do you want to marry someone who slept around with a lot of people casually? You know you don’t want to!

And if you knew your spouse had once lived like this, you would wonder how faithful this person was going to be after you got married. If this is how unfaithful they are before you get married—if this person can yield that easily to sexual temptation— is this the kind of person that you want to promise that you’re going to love you “till death do us part” and raise children with?

You see, you’re ruining credibility with your future spouse when you have premarital sex.

You say, “Well we’re engaged. We’re going to be married!”

Well, you aren’t married. You aren’t married and there is a chance that you may not get married. Because sometimes people who are engaged ultimately don’t get married. Sometimes they won’t show up for their own weddings.

So until the ring is on the finger and the vows have been made publicly in front of witnesses, only then can you be reasonably certain that you’ve got a pretty good promise going here from this person. And only then should you share what only they deserve: the blessing of a sexual relationship that is designed by God to glue you together, and to enhance your relationship in marvelous, marvelous ways, and to give you the chance to have children and all the blessings!

Premarital Sex is Like a Mild Form of Prostitution

So don’t sell yourself cheap. Premarital sex is really a mild form of prostitution. And on one level it could be considered even lower than prostitution, because you’re not even making any money as you cheaply give your body to somebody who doesn’t deserve it. And I’m talking to men and women.

Thanks for joining me on this Little Lesson. God bless you.